There is a balance to be found between offering others hope and not being so far up your own arse that you neglect to see progress as the privilege it is.
I don’t know if I’m just bitter and twisted after 10 years, but seeing people who have seen amazing improvement tell me and others to Dig Deep And Not Give Up Hope, To Focus On Gratitude And That Healing Is Possible just gets my back up.
I’m elated for them that progress has been made and that their dreadful suffering has eased. That’s not what this about.
It’s about people not recognising that them making progress doesn’t mean others can to.
Progress is a privilege, often down to circumstance, support and luck.
The attitudes of some others who have seen progress are problematic. They seem to assume that others should do exactly as they did and that the outcome will be the same. And if the outcome is not the same, or if we are unable to do as they did, then we are doing something wrong.
I don’t like it. I think it does harm actually.
I wish that everyone’s suffering eased and that progress was made. But I understand that just because it happened for me doesn’t mean it’s possible for everyone. That fact sucks. But it’s how it is.
Maybe I just don’t like being told what to do by others. Any kind of unsolicited advice riles me up. I don’t need to be told to focus on the positives for a start!
Anyway. This is just my (probably unpopular) opinion.