Not so long ago I wasn’t feeling so good about Christmas time. Actually, I was feeling awful; completely dreading it. But my mum said something to me when I was trying to work out Christmas time logistics and I thought I’d share it here because it might help someone else who may be feeling overwhelmed and swamped in pressure like I did:
“People’s hurt feelings will heal a lot faster than your poorly body will.”
Basically, pushing myself to do things that were really not sensible just to please others was not the right thing to be doing.
So this year, for the first time, I am taking a stand for myself and doing what is best for my poorly body. I am saying No to certain invitations or plans even though it is leaving people feeling disappointed or hurt because, ultimately, I am not very well. Every single day, I am not very well. That doesn’t change at Christmas time. In fact I need to be even more cautious at this time of year because there are so many more social events than at any other time of year.
It’s taking a lot of guts to do this actually. Some of the things I’m saying No to are actually things I have pushed myself to do in previous years. But it’s unlikely that some people knew I was pushing myself to do them. And, as always, it has been very hard and sad to see others sad because of my health. I am missing out on lovely things with my favourite people but that is what I have to do. I am doing the best I can within my own limits. And that has to be enough, because it’s all I’ve got.
So I hope Mumma Jones’s words of wisdom might help someone else in the way they helped me. I think they’re pretty spot on.