‘Blue Sunday’ Fundraising Pack

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‘Blue Sunday’ Fundraising Packs, to help get you in the Tea Party For M.E spirit!

Each pack is £6.

What’s in the pack?

6 pennant mini bunting
6 cupcake toppers
1 cake topper
10 stickers
2 mini badges*
‘Blue Sunday’ fact sheet
Printable poster (not pictured)
Printable donation sign (not pictured)
Printable recipe card (not pictured)

*We have a limited number of extra badges. Let Hannah know if you’d like extras adding to your Pack. They’re 50p each.

How to order a pack:

•Follow Hannah at @sunshinemakesandbakes on Instagram. (If you’re not on Instagram please leave a comment on this post and I’ll forward your name onto Hannah to reserve you a pack.)
•Send Hannah a message with your address, email address (for the digital part of the pack) and make payment
•Hannah will reply to confirm you’ve bagged one
•If you’d like a couple of extra badges adding to your Fundraising Pack, ask Hannah and they can be added for 50p each
•Keep you eye out for the Fundraising Pack arriving through your letterbox by early a May at the latest.

Thanks to the kindness and generosity of Hannah and my husband at Woodcraft Tree Services, the packs are just £6 with £2.50 from every pack being donated to @actionform.e

This isn’t something I’ve been able to do before for the Tea Party For M.E. I am very excited! There’s a limited number as we’re testing the water to see if it’s something you’re interested in.

Hannah from Sunshine Makes and Bakes has made my little pipe dream a reality.

Don’t let anyone tell you that online friendships and relationships with people who you’ve never had the pleasure of meeting in person aren’t real and wonderful. Because this wouldn’t be happening without Hannah; someone I ‘met’ online years ago who makes my days easier to bear.

Culpability

I have to accept a certain level of responsibility when it comes to my M.E.

And I don’t always like that: I don’t always want to accept that.

The vast majority of the time, my suffering is not my fault. It’s out of my hands. M.E. is cruel and I am unwell every single day.

But ten years in, with even the basic understanding that exertion and activity can/will cause an exacerbation of symptoms, I must accept that sometimes (not often, but sometimes!) I do have to bear some of the responsibility for some of the suffering.

For example, on a Good Day if I don’t quit while I’m ahead (and I don’t always because I am a human being who is often desperate to live a little!) then the next couple of days after that Good Day will be far from pleasant.

If I go so wild as to brush my teeth AND have a 15 minute video call on the same day, I’m asking for trouble truth be told! And I know that. And because I know that, I must accept responsibility when the suffering comes.

I ended up really ill the other day. The day before I’d done far too much (typing that is such a struggle because I don’t want to admit to it!) But I really overdid it. It’s not hard to do at the moment but still.

I did far, far less than the average person, and far less than was my normal pre-relapse, but for me it was borderline ridiculous. The next day I tried to convince both myself and my husband that I was coming down with a bug. I wasn’t, it was Post Exertional Malaise. But the denial was strong! I refused to take responsibility to my actions.

I don’t think anyone would blame me for wanting to live a little, but to do it repeatedly, time after time after time, and then moan, wallow and wonder why….that would be on me.

Whether I like it or not, I cannot live that way. To constantly live in Boom and Bust, when I have the choice not to? To be in complete denial about my limitations and restrictions? That’s on me.

There is little quality of life to found there.

I am speaking of my own personal experience. For the duration of my M.E. I have had the privilege of being able to practice Pacing. But every once in while I will throw a mini-tantrum and just refuse to Pace. Because I don’t want to! Because why should I have to! Because it’s so totally unfair that I can’t do what I want when I want!

But life is unfair. Life with M.E. is even more so. Kicking against it doesn’t make it any less so.

Like all things, acceptance comes and goes. I am still adjusting the my new normal after the relapse.

I don’t have to like my physical limits, but I do have to work on being in complete denial of them.

Two months until ‘Blue Sunday’ 2021

Let the countdown begin

For those who don’t know, since 2013 my family and I have hosted a Tea Party For M.E during M.E Awareness week. It’s come to be known as ‘Blue Sunday’.

We have about 70 guests join us, whilst also running an online/virtual event alongside it for those unable to join us in person. To date we’ve raised over £20,000.

For the 9th year in a row, I’m hosting my Tea Party For M.E. for people with M.E. and their family and friends. Everyone is welcome!

I strongly believe that we need and deserve a dedicated day of fundraising, but also a day where we can come together to mark and celebrate our resilience and our strength in the face of this cruel and life-altering disease.

On Sunday 16th May, people from all over the world will meet up online to chat and leave comments on each other’s posts. While doing so they’ll be enjoying tea and cake (or whatever their delicate digestive systems can manage) and donating what they can to M.E. charities and causes.

We are so often excluded from events because our symptoms can make it so difficult for us to leave the house, let alone spend an hour or two at an event.

That’s why the Tea Party For M.E. has always had an online/virtual element running alongside any Real Life tea parties.

I have M.E myself so obviously have to be very careful and could not do this without the help and support of my nearest and dearest.

With two months to go I’ll be starting to share more about how to join in and where to donate.

How it works

You can read more about how ‘Blue Sunday’ started at About ‘Blue Sunday’

The premise is simple:

  • You wear something blue.
  • You bake or buy your favourite cake.
  • You dig out your best cups and saucers
  • You donate the price you’d pay for tea and cake in a café
  • You post a photo of your little tea party set-up to the Facebook Event or under the hashtags on Twitter or Instagram.
  • You chat with others online who are doing exactly the same thing from the relative comfort of their own homes.

I hope Sunday 16th May will give you something to look forward to and that you’ll be able to join me online to swap recipes, drool over cake, and have a little chat to break the isolation we so often feel. All while raising money for M.E causes.

Big plans for the 2021 Tea Party For M.E.

For years I have dreamt about making something more of this little Tea Party For M.E. I wondered what the possibilities were and whether it was doable, not least because I have M.E. But this year is set to be the biggest year yet.

I have approached more M.E. charities than ever before, inviting them to join in. I am working on the ‘Blue Sunday’ Donations tab at the top of this page so it’s easier than ever to donate to the M.E. charity of your choice. They are going to let me know how much is donated to them so referencing ‘Blue Sunday’ when you come to donate would be a big help!

This year I’m joined by

  • Action for M.E
  • The M.E Trust
  • M.E. Research UK
  • The M.E Association
  • Smile for M.E.
  • Open Medicine Foundation
  • Irish MECFS Association
  • Invest in M.E. Research UK
  • MECFS Foundation South Africa
  • Tymes Trust

and more to come!

I also have Hannah from Sunshine Makes and Bakes by my side to create a fundraising pack to help get you into the ‘Blue Sunday’ spirit. There are only a limited number available so keep your eyes peeled for more details next week via Instagram.


The ‘Blue Sunday’ 2021 tab at the top of the page has information in it too.