Join the M.E. Community today by enjoying tea and cake (or whatever suits you best) and donate the price you’d pay in a café to an M.E charity.
How to join in
The premise is simple.
Wear something blue (pyjamas count!)
Dig out your best cups and saucers
Bake or buy your favourite cake
Post a photo of your little tea party set-up to social media
Invite your family and friends to enjoy tea and cake with you, in person or via video call
Donate the price you’d pay in a café
Connect with others online who are doing the same, by commenting on their photos and posts
Where to donate
Visit ‘Blue Sunday’ Donations to find the direct links to 12 M.E. charities that I’m hoping to raise lots of money for this year. If the charity you’d choose to donate to isn’t listed, please still donate to them. I’m merely trying to keep track of the total amount raised today and the 12 charities listed are helping me do that!
Awareness days pass the majority of people by if they’re not directly affected by something. But I’ve found cake to be a VERY good way of getting the attention of people from outside of the M.E. Community.
We get 70+ guests at my own Tea Party For M.E. each year (not since the pandemic obviously) and I have tended to be the only person there that actually has M.E. We’ve had medical students and GPs attend and everyone leaves knowing a little bit more about M.E. than when they arrived.
Most get to see the way my energy fades over those two hours, and how that affects my speech, my posture, my ability to walk… Seeing shouldn’t have to be believing but it does help.
As I’ve said before though, my friends who have M.E. do not need to be made aware of M.E. They know better than anyone what the reality of life with this illness is like.
For them, I want Blue Sunday to be a day of celebration; celebrating the fact that they overcome all that is thrown at them every single day. They are absolute champions in my opinion.
Blue Sunday also gives those of us with M.E. an excuse to donate to M.E. charities who work tirelessly on our behalf. This year I’ve had a glimpse at the work some of these charities do and I am spurred on by their unwavering dedication to make our lives better.
Blue Sunday gives those closest to us, who see our suffering, a rare opportunity to support us in something. For those who saw us disappear from the lives we’d always known, it’s a chance to learn a little more about the illness that turned our world upside down. And all while under the lighthearted pretence of eating a bit of cake and drinking a pot of tea.
See you all online on Sunday 16th May 💙
NB. To anyone who finds themselves too unwell to have their cake and eat it on ‘Blue Sunday’, please post your tea party photos and join in whenever you can throughout the following week. Flexibility is key with M.E! So please don’t worry. All of the photos will still be available to see and comment on if you want to whenever suits your health best.
This time next week, people from all over the world will be enjoying tea and cake in aid of M.E. charities, all because of a simple idea a very poorly 23 year old me had back in 2012. I feel elated, proud, and dumbfounded that ‘Blue Sunday’ continues to grow year after year.
The Tea Party For M.E. is for YOU.
You who has spent hours in waiting rooms only to be dismissed by doctor after doctor. You who has been neglected for months, years, or decades because you have a health condition with a cruel and inaccurate stigma attached. You who either doesn’t get invited anymore, or does but likely has to cancel or decline. You who has lost the life you loved and deserved.
I know it’s only a small compensation, if any at all. I know you don’t want a tea party; you want a cure! Or at least treatments that do not exacerbate your illness. (I’m looking at you Graded Exercise Therapy.) Or even to just be treated with respect by medical professionals; to have your symptoms validated rather than disregarded.
I can’t give you those things. There are people working to give you that, and that’s who we’re fundraising for. But for now I offer you a day online with people who ‘get it’. People who understand what you’ve lost. People who also wish and hope for better, in every sense of the word. People who are also trying hard each day to make the best of the hand they’ve been dealt.
I don’t think the very people who are living with the condition we’re fundraising for should have to miss out on the fundraising event. There is a lot we can’t do and a lot we miss out on. So why shouldn’t we have a fundraising event that is centred more around our health and our restrictive symptoms? Hence why there has, and always will be, the online/virtual aspect to the Tea Party For M.E.
So get planning what you’re going to bake/buy/eat/wear my friends! Only one week to go!